Heart and Grit.

When it comes to sports, heart and grit can sound like buzzwords. Ask ten athletes for a definition and you’ll get ten different answers—but I think most would agree we know it when we see it. Passion, tenacity, focus, composure, resilience—they’re all part of it, and more.

To me, playing with heart means being intentional. It’s showing up for every shot with total commitment—evaluating the situation, thinking through your options, applying what you know, and executing with care. Grit is what happens when you refuse to drift from this approach over the long-term, even when it’s hard, boring, or frustrating. It’s the persistence to keep doing the right things when the results don’t show up right away.

As a coach, I see two types of golfers. The first are recreational players—people who play for fun, exercise, social connection, or networking. Those are great reasons to love the game. But the group I’m most focused on are the competitive golfers: players who practice, compete, and work hard, yet sometimes look like they don’t even want to be there. They have talent but no spark—and that’s tough to watch.

More often than not, these players aren’t lazy or unmotivated—they’re distracted. School, work, relationships, stress, other sports, burnout—it all piles up. Over time, connection to the sport and the passion that once drove them fades into the background noise of life. In the worst cases, the passion disappears entirely.

The truth is, distractions never go away. The key to protecting your heart and grit is staying present. When you’re playing golf, play golf. Let the rest of life wait. Enjoy the walk, the quiet, the challenge, and the satisfaction of a well-struck shot. Learn from your mistakes, celebrate small victories, and love the process—not just the result. Growing through obstacles is ultimately what brings joy and adds fuel to the proverbial fire.

Heart and grit aren’t about being perfect or playing like a pro. They’re about caring deeply, trying hard, and refusing to quit on yourself.